Written by Johnny P.

The Winter Holidays are intended to be the happiest of times of the year. It’s a time to eat good food, hang out with friends and family as well as buy gifts for those you care about. For these exact same reasons, however, many people are equally miserable. Sadly, some people don’t have the luxury of extra-money to spend on their loved ones. Others just plain don’t like spending time or money on anyone. Socially anxious folk might get trapped into a web of their own head, dreading the idea of sitting at a table with a bunch of extended family members they barely even know.

At its core, though, the Holidays are supposed to represent gratefulness for what you already have. People at your side, a roof over your head. Many of us take these simple things for granted, getting swooped up in our own negativity within the comforts of our bedrooms while others are forced to withstand the the cold, wet, slushy winter weather from the confines of a cardboard box.

Not all of us are born with everything in life neatly gift wrapped and bow-tied to us. For most, it isn’t the case at all and it’s those hardships that develop us into who we are. The ability to overcome your personal demons is what makes you stronger, more intelligent and helps you progress a better character. Though all of us go through some crap in our lifespan, never forget that there’s someone out there who has been dealt a much worse hand than you have.

With New Year’s right around the corner, the Holiday season is often a time of self reflection. Where are we right now and where do we want to be by next year? For introverts who’d like to bloom into someone more socially active, this is a great time that not only provides ample opportunity to get out more, but also gives you a chance to make some noble gestures, paying forward for the things you appreciate in your life by trying to help others who are down on their luck. Equally as much, if you’re someone who feels in a rut, doing something kind for someone else will bring you a sense of joy and new confidence that can help fill that void in your life. If you are socially anxious and looking to break that, or just feeling down on your luck, here are some things that might add some bright lights to your way of living.


The idea of making and giving sandwiches to homeless people is becoming a wider phenomenon. A handful of individuals, usually friends or patrons involved with a helping-hand style organization will get together and make hundreds of sandwiches throughout the course of a day and into the night. The following afternoon, these people will take their handmade sandwiches into the streets, handing them out to anyone sleeping near an abandoned building or sitting on the sidewalk asking for change, sometimes adding chips and a can of soda to sweeten the gift. No matter how grand the gesture, gratitude is often met from the people receiving their fresh meal, giving those who put in the work a sense of satisfaction and happiness in helping those less fortunate than themselves. There’s a wide range of YouTube videos showing exactly what kind of effect this has on both the people giving and receiving a sandwich, and will make you feel all bubbly inside after watching.


The Soup Kitchen is one of the most popular charity workplaces during the Holiday season. If you live in a major city, there will undoubtedly be one in the area in which you can volunteer for online or by phone. Not only will you get the satisfaction of helping those in need, but it’s also an opportunity to meet and interact with the other volunteers who are there for the same reason you are. You have a common ground in volunteering and it will open the gates to conversation. Alternatively, you can also converse with those coming in for their holiday meal. Homeless people are often the ones who need human connection the most and you can take it upon yourself to give them a friend, even if it’s only for a few hours. So often the down on their luck are ignored, and can becoming widely depressed during the holiday season. Engaging them in conversation will help them feel like a human again. Who knows, you may even meet someone who has an inspiring story to share.


This one might bring a subtle hint of dread in your bones, but the Holiday season is a prime-time to go on some dates. “Cuffing Season” as it’s becoming known as is the effect that the Holidays have on single people. With all the romantic advertisements being sprawled across the city and lovey couples holding hands as they prance along the snow-ridden streets, a feeling of want and desire for love heightens during this time. That being said, online dating usership skyrockets as everyone is looking for that special person to be their coveted New Years kiss. If you’re single, the Holiday season is the perfect time to go out and mingle!

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There are a number of ways you can break out of your shell as a socially anxious introvert during the holidays. It’s all up to you to figure out what works best. Doing something that involves the act of giving will leave you with not only happiness from being kind, but also a sense of confidence for going out and doing something to help make the world a better place. Helping those in need will give you a greater appreciation for what you have, even if you thought your original situation wasn’t that great. Not only that, but with all this newfound confidence from going out, interacting with people and being genuinely kind, you will be able to burst into the New Year with a focus on bettering yourself and being proactive in achieving your goals.

Happy Holidays! Here’s hoping for a better you this New Year!

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